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Succumb to Pressure – win it or lose it

Succumb

Hey, are you married??? No, OMG get married soon, i’l pray to GOD that you find someone best!!!

How many years as it been after your marriage!! what?? no kids!!

Be obedient and pray to GOD, things will happen!

Girl child???? 

Why waste money on a girl??

OMG, she is in love?? get her married to someone immediately!!! This is a disgrace!!

Hey, stop being a burden, get married and leave them in peace!

At times, i realize that people around are so worried about our life, when they contributed 0% of goodness or in fact have contributed to anything to your life! But i wonder where they appear from, yet, they make their presence in the worst time ever.

A lot of women succumb to this unwanted talks that a few people think that they are devoted to. Social pressure impact a girl mentally curbing her from pursuing her dreams. Although education throws a larger light on this, the context of the subject still holds the literature content that supports this oppression. In fact, in a lot of remote places in this world, there is still a set of people who’s social system do not consider women’s privacy.

The design of our social strata has been composed in a pattern that women’s right to privacy or right to decisions have always been under radar and has always been subjected to questioning.

However, there has always been exception, one set of women who do not compromise on their value systems, well, times have changed. We make our lives with what we want and what we have learnt. Does it mean that we wouldn’t be able to adjust with our spouse? Not at all, how can not one adjust with their partner? and yes, it is when they find their partner, again of their choice!

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Cloaked skin colour

via Daily Prompt: Cloaked

Fair skin in 30 days

Beautiful fair complexion in 10 days

Atleast one in 10 advertisements focus on products that increase fairness, complexion and increase skin shade.

The most surprising factor here is that almost all of us (both men & women) know that it is impossible to lighten the skin complexion with anything external. Well, I’m not going to discuss about the scientific reasons behind this, which is definitely melanin but I would like to pen down the social pressure that lies beneath this trend.

For me, the ever beautiful skin color would always be Dusk. The unique shades in dusk has its own sensuality. The mix of vibrant colours to this has always been an epic show. I always find it to be stunning.

But for years, we have only been addictive towards fair skin. Our obsession has ended up with two sections of people. One, accepting what lies inside ; two, a major group notices only the external look.

I happened to meet a 17 year old girl who was very down and her enthusiasm went down to zero. She was lost and clearly was in need of help. She was just the opposite of how she was when I met her last time, she was a very bold, stylish and very brilliant girl. Every single girl in her class was jealous of her. However this time she was had put on a lot of weight and was looking like a different person. I went up to her, initiated my conversation and after which she opened up.

Turns out that she had auditioned for the role of queen in her school drama. She was brutally rejected and insulted by her teachers and school mates. She developed a very inferiority complex and forgot her identity. She was addicted to almost every single ads, tried every product in the market hoping that they would all change her misery

It took a while to get her back to herself, the teachers never helped but her sister did and somehow she was back to herself with fierce.

Like I always say, beauty is always misunderstood. In fact I think in a world where people’s thoughts are unpredictable , the only thing that keeps us going is by believing ourselves!

Is our skin colour that worth to demean someone???? Well, my opinion is explained in write up, time for you to think!

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Tame the Shrew?? Really??

via Daily Prompt: Tame

Who is a shrew?

A bad-tempered or aggressively assertive woman is called a Shrew.

The best way to understand its meaning is by either reading Shakespeare’s work – Taming of the Shrew play or by watching the film with the same title.

The first time, i was introduced to this play was in my English classes when i was in my 8th grade. From then on, i was fascinated by the style of work that Shakespeare portrayed, i loved the depth of all his plays. However, now after understanding the concept of equal rights i’m questioning  myself! How did i like this or become fond of this?

So is this write up an analysis of the play? Not at all, but is an analysis of how have we been perceiving that one set of women who have always been termed as Shrew and yes, taming them has always been the task of guys.

Unfortunately we live in a patriarchal society where women have only been seen as the cultural scapegoats. Out of curiosity, i wanted to check if there is any male version of the word shrew, to my surprise i couldn’t find any. Anger is common for all the species that are in this world, it is an emotion. Not sure why can it not be expressed by woman. An angry woman is never like by any one, oh yeah, men have their own regulations too but women has got so much on their heads that denies the basic right of a living being – Emotions.

I don’t support using force or violence to express one’s anger, it is definitely an emotion that imparts negativity on self and on those on whom it gets inflicted. I’m only against the restriction imposed on it. Who is termed to be a shrew in real life? Almost every woman who asks questions, stands up for herself, denies to adhere to a lot of norms that doesn’t make sense, questions why should she always wear a veil on top of her head, wonders what is wrong in speaking, why should she be the only person doing chores at home, why should she be married so early, questions why is the society so worried about her biological clock etc etc.

Taming is to domesticate. Are women prone to be domesticated? i was so baffled to watch the movie because the story line focused on the below

  1. Getting a woman marry which happened to be the biggest responsibility of a father
  2. A shrew can only get married to a drunkard
  3. Its absolutely okay for the dear husbands be rude to their wives to teach them a lesson
  4. An angry woman is never a gentle lady
  5. When dear husbands command a lady, she has to report immediately
  6. Not even one person has the brains to figure out the reason that the girl is angry

I cannot blame Shakespeare for this, after all he was part of the big lot that had like thoughts! The society that has been denying almost everything that a species require. When i say requirement, it is not just basic needs – Self Identity, decision making, independent and liberal minded.

Almost all the cultures in this world praise a woman’s beauty. For those women who are beautiful beyond words either get into power or become subjective to objectification. But those women who had only been focusing on internal beauty were given the title of perfect homemakers and were indirectly stopped from using their talents.

At least now we have come to live in a society where there is a sect of men who do disagree to associate the word tame to women and equally respect them, well, that’s the start!

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What happens when crown gets in the head!

‘OMG, (stands up), hey stand up – He is my boss!’

Me – ‘Good for you, but why do you expect me to give the same respect to him??’

It has become a trend that most of those at the headship consider almost everyone to be their subordinates – beyond an extend that service providers have also started following the same trend in every one of their resolutions.

I had an awkward experience with one of a telecom enterprise when i made a very big mistake of taking up a postpaid service. The reason i regret of taking up the service is the prolonged harassment that follows even if you had missed paying the bills for a week at least. You will be treated as though you have committed a grave mistake and they would call you up and ensure they vent out almost all of their anger. Done and dusted, i had to heighten it further reaching the escalation matrix as mentioned in their website.

To my surprise, I was never allowed to reach the higher matrix as they had their own office to take care of such concerns. The executives who had been attending to my concern ( They called it Dispute – surprisingly all the concerns raised by customers to them is called Dispute not concerns! well, a definition to be noted) , the expression of the executives only displayed their loyalty that i can never reach the higher authority as they were in a realllly big grade in their own concern. I told them that i’am only a customer and the relationship that i have with them is purely business and that i’am absolutely not bothered about their own ranking system.

It is agreeable that one should respect experience and someone who is older to them, but does it require every one to do the same? Not exactly, when you opt for a service, you pay them. Request is only used when you politely ask for a favor and yes, on a formal context but the word appeal?

Lets discuss that too, in the next post.

Well, wondering what happened in my case? I deactivated it!